Motherhood
Motherhood is the act of nursing and selflessly caring for a child as to bring him or her to maturity. This is the desire of every woman out there whether married or single. Women are naturally designed to be a mother either biologically or otherwise. In fact the best definition for motherhood is coach. One can't successfully be a mother without knowing the qualities of a mother.
I will list the qualities of a mother using the acronyms " MOTHER "
M..... Meek
O...... Obedient
T....... Tender
H...... Humble
E....... Ever
R....... Reliable
Submissiveness
Submissiveness is the act of surrendering your authority deliberately to another either forcefully or willfully. As to become lesser, and servant to that person.
Having known what motherhood and submissiveness is, the other thing is to know when a woman is permitted to exercise this two important aspect of her life. Looking at the qualities of a mother above you will find out that they are capable of placing anyone who possessed them in authority.
Fortunately, the first place a woman can fully exercise this potentials is in marriage and her first child to be nursed is her husband. Unfortunately, no man wants another mother because they have had one in their life before they met you. Though he can call you mother as expression of love due to the qualities above you possessed but that doesn't make you his mother or coach.
Every woman must understand that those qualities are what attract a man to marry a woman but in marriage the man need all of them 100%. In fact he can afford to accept the rest 50% but the 'OH' is needed hundred percent that is what he understand as mother. That OH is what is called submissiveness.
Remember mother are always run to for advice and that tend to place us in authority because of the God given qualities. Unfortunately this God given qualities have succeeded in ruining many women, because the man always come to them they will now assume authority and want to control the man.
Every marriage started from relationship. In relationship the man will shower you love and always seek your opinion in everything because he just left his mother yard and his understanding is this is another mother. But this mother is different from his mother because when he is with this mother he feels differently. That is when you see him around you always. Immediately marriage preparation starts you will see him less because his now about to do something mother does not do and the only person who does that are fathers. That is when you see him with either his father or other men out there.
This is when the attention begin to drop, some women will begin to feel the man don't like them anymore or his with another woman. In an attempt to get back their former position in the man's life that is when the man begin to see her as trying to control him. Every mother is the head of the children that is why they are called home builder and every woman is a potential mother. Unfortunately in marriage power must change hand you are only permitted to control and lord your child not your husband.
As a woman you must understand this fact that though you are a mother, but there is someone who is like a child to you, but his not your child but your LORD. For a true mother this is where you need your MTH qualities fully. Because it is not easy to leave a place of authority as to become a subject.
Most importantly, know this that your role is still well recognised, don't fight for it. When you do you will be seen as someone that want to control her husband. The truth is man respects who he serves and loves who serves him, but hates who is at the same level with him as such he fights him.
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