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The Major Reason of being single in marriage

Many people are married today but are living single. Unfortunately for some they don't even know they are single. We can't totally understand what it means to be single in marriage without knowing the difference between both. Before we go further to discuss the main reason of being single in marriage we will first define marriage and singleness.

Singleness:

This is a stage in one's life of being whole without companion. This period in adult hood is when one is so engrossed in his or herself without having fear of the feelings of others. In this stage you are your own boss, you take and make decisions without interference. It is an interesting and exciting stage in the life of every human. However, though exciting its also a stage of loneliness and having too much to carry without compulsory right of sharing it with another.

Marriage

Marriage is the immediate next stage after being single. It is the coming together of two individual usually a male and  a female as to become one. In this stage you are not your own boss, decisions have to review by you both before it can be taken. Though it seems demanding and its a time for selflessness. But it is the most exiting time in life.

Having known what married and being single is and their differences, that will take us to the major business.
The major reason for married but being single is :

CAREER:

 career is least suspected as the number one reason of married couple living single. The strive to live up to the standard of the present day economy have lead many people to go outside their means at all cost. 

The society now have more of ambitious men and women who now have the belief of job first. There is now much less value to life not to talk about relationship. Now lets look at it a man can travel for 3 years without seeing the family all in the name of making ends meet. If you are in this category you will find out your colleague, your employer and your employee is closer to you than your spouse.

So many married men and women takes two to three jobs just to provide for the family. My question always is how can you successfully provide for someone you don't even know his or her needs. So many people chose to work overtime without leave in order to make more money at the detriment of their home.

Some spouse cultivate the habit of bringing office home. You have been away from home from morning till night, the time you are supposed to spend with your partner you will be busy with office work. The level of intimacy between you and your partner will begin to reduce to the point that you will not discuss any more and as such preferring to come home late.

Many chose their career over their spouse. Just imagine a woman can comfortably leave home to work even when her husband is sick and needed help. My concern is have u ever thought about the persons emotion? The person will be lonely.

Conclusively, career has led a lot of marriages and people to their early grave. People has refused to understand what single is in marriage. That is why i took time to define both. People are lonely, and starved of love and care because the person they have choosing as their companion have taken job to be their first priority. Stand to bridge the gap in your home and marriages today by striking balance between your work and marriage.

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  1. OghoghoAugust 6, 2019 at 1:45 PM

    Please give a write up on how that balance can be achieved especially in this age of harsh economy

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    1. SPENCEAugust 7, 2019 at 9:06 AM

      Thank you so much Oghogho am working on that. You can keep visiting or drop your email as to be notified whenever the write up is ready

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