How To Balance Career and Marriage

In my previous post i wrote the reasons for being single in marriage for which i stated the major reason which is CAREER. I write to profound solution to that effect. For the purpose of this writeup I am stating two ways of balancing career and marriage.

1. Commitment

For marriage to work successfully and both parties not feeling sad as to resent, then commitment must be made. Do you know many people are highly committed to their job even to the extent of betraying their spouse? Now as a married woman or man courtesy demand you spend much time with your family but due to bills to be paid we easily stay at work even for months.

It is true the economy is not friendly but what matter is how you sees it. The world is filled with people who want to achieve much with less resources. Nothing stops you from having good conversation with your spouse about your desire for your dream family that is now a reality. You can discuss with your spouse on how the bills should be paid and what to do and what not to do as to achieve that.

It is when you are committed to your spouse's love, care and happiness that can lead you to having heart to heart talk as to achieve the big dream without any of you feeling lonely. Now let me share a little of my experience, when i and my fiance was planning for our wedding i dont have much, i was just raising a business in other words i may not have tangible cash to contribute. So it was obvious the whole responsibility will be his.

We sat down and agree on how we can come up with the requirements. That was how we started seeing less and at a time we almost became strangers again. Then I began to fear if we marry we might end up living as two strangers. I went to him to find out all he has been doing, then i saw he was carried away on how to meet up. Though I was not having cash to contribute but i have words and understanding.

To cut the story short I took it upon myself to take the hardest part and that is.....commitment. How did i do that? I started praying for him because i know the stress was much, i started calling to know is well being. I make sure i call him before he leave home and when he gets to work. When he comes back i will try to know how is fairing. Do you know what? Soon he got used to it. That i don't have to do it but him always.

You might say that is simple is relationship so he can bear but i tell you the same thing is applicable in marriage. Do you think it was easy for me? If you think just try to let your feelings go and commit yourself to your spouse happiness. 

Listed below are some ways to be committed;

1. Love: you must love your spouse no matter the condition. Whether he deserve it or not. We love truly when we love those who don't deserve our love.

2. Spend Time:  no matter how tight your schedules are always take time out. You no what let the time you spend with them be much.

2. Communication; my dear reader communication is the key. People are living single in their marriage because they are not committed to communication. Nowadays technology have made this easy, you must not be under the same roof as to achieve this. Some are under the same roof yet they are far from each other. Remember communication in marriage is 90% significant in the heart.

2. Submissiveness 

You must be submissive that is loyal. You cant be fully committed to someone you are not loyal to. This is most important for the women, your husband is your head so you must respect him. He told you he needs your attention in bed that was the time you want to edit your business review my dear that is not submissiveness.

Listed below are some ways to be submitted to your spouse.

1. You must welcome his/her idea and judgment.

2. You must dress to please him and him alone.

You must treat him/ her with care and love.

3. You must let your will off as to accept his.

Conclusively, any relationship/ marriage in which commitment and submission to one another does not thrive then its heading towards failure.

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