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Things Matured People Do Before Saying I Do


To most people saying I do is something
they yearn and long for as days go by. Though saying I do  to the one you love is the most exciting and interesting thing to do. On the other hand is the most critical state of one's life and decision.

Here are few things to know as to know as to ensure your readiness 


The first of the list is about your five sense organ. You are going to have your five sense organ malfunctioned.

The Eye

The eye is an organ of sight it allows you to see everything whether hidden or revealed. It is a powerful too that engage itself even when you least require its service. It is for protection, and visions. But in marriage and relationship you must learn how to make the eye malfunction. How is this done? It is not everything they shows you that you will agree to. Its duty is to see why the final judgment of what it saw is your duty. In relationship and marriage everything is not as how they appear to so you must learn to be in control of your eye. For example a young woman sighted husband who picked a girl on the way and the girl dropping from the car, the girl move to the driver side of the car after some few minutes the girl came out cleaning her lips. Now assuming you are the wife who sited her what will your reaction be? After much questioning she found out the girl was actually a mechanic the time she moved to the driver side of the car she actually entered under the car to check out some fault the car developed if it was something she can help to fix as a way of appreciating someone who helped her on the road. Then the woman later recall the girl was dusting her body as she was going because she was stained. Do you see things are not really as they appear? So you must learn to judge against the eye even when its right. Are you ready for that?



The Mouth


The Mouth is an outer organ among the five sensory organs, it is very vital because without it it will be difficult to recognize the position of ear. You must learn to speak less and not to speak when you are tensed or angry. If nothing is said then nothing is heard. Many people while growing up cultivated the habit of not allowing someone to go away with words so they learnt to have reply to every single statement you made to them in fact their reply must be hurtful compare to what they were told. In marriage and relationship these doesn't work because it will automatically be a ship with two competitive captain hence, catastrophe.


The Ear


The ear as we all know is very sharp, it can decode an information from afar as such if it is not properly managed it can lead one to trouble. So you must learn to be deaf even when the ear is telling you something because it can not force you to act on them. God knows the importance of deafness that is why he allowed some to be deaf so we can learn that as human there are times we should act deaf to words we heard.
You will not understand this until you have people around you who in one way or the other discovered your weakness as acting on every word you hear, they will end up tormenting your marriage and relationship with it.

Conclusively, maturity for marriage is not by age or size it is the ability to master your mind and yourself. If you do that successfully you will not find it difficult in mastering others.

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