How To Build a Healthy Relationship With your Partner

 

Before we go about talking on how to build healthy relationship, we must first understand that there is no perfect relationship out there. As such relationship is usually filled with ups and downs which tends to affect the health of any relationships. However for any relationship to be unique and enviable by others it requires the hard work of both parties. If you are having issue with your relationship it is not time to park out, or if you are new in your relationship it is not time to sit and begin to enjoy the love it is time to sit up and work on it.

Note: There is no relationship that can not succeed if the both partner agrees to build it and make it a healthy and lasting one.

KEYS TO BUILDING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

There are serries of keys to building lasting relationship but we are going to talk on few important ones:

• Don't take out your problem on your partner

As I have earlier mentioned that relationship is filled with ups and downs, which can be stress, loss of job, health issue, even lost of family member are some things our partners may be struggling with. As such making communication difficult. Sometimes communicating with them at that time can bring a lot of problem. However we must understand that as we are struggling with those things our partners can equally be having one or two problem he or she is struggling with. Therefore we must learn to contain our problem and create room for our partner to express themselves. You shouldn't fight your partner because he or she is behaving strange rather it is time to encourage. In other words, you and your partner can not be on same page always. You must avoid to be short tempered that is what life stress can make us to be if we can't control our emotions.

• Let communication be kept alive

Most people really do not know how to communicate especially when passing through difficulty. Whatever problem you are passing through learn to communicate it to your partner, doing that you are assuring him or her is part of you and can't be kept in the dark.

Learn to tell your partner your needs, don't assume he or she know it. Remember his not God that can know everything going on in your heart. No matter what the needs are communicate it, even if he or she cannot afford it at that time but it has given both of you room to talk about it together instead of you sharing the burden alone.

You must also learn to communicate your needs as request/ opinion not demanding. As am writing this I had a need am expected to communicate to my husband when we meet today, it might affect his emotion but is an on avoidable need. I would have love to keep it to myself but I remember I have to keep the communication line open. Though distant has a long way to affect any relationship, but I tell you the fastest poison that can kill a relationship is lack of communication. Lack of communication always make partners to be strangers to one another.

While communicating you must learn to be a good listener it helps you to understand your partner more. It also make them feel safe relating any issue with you as such making discussion smooth.

• Keep your intimacy alive

Though physical and emotional intimacy is required in a relationship, however you must understand that sex is not the only physical way to bond/ intimate with our partners. You can bond by expressing frequent attention such as holding hands, hugging, kissing, touching in fact laughing together. You must try to understand the one your partner likes most and express it to him or her freely. As such you are making yourself happy too.

Conflict is inevitable in a relationship therefore you must learn how to resolve conflict together. It doesn't matter who won, what matter is having healthy relationship. Always be willing to forgive and don't drag old argument into your conflict as to gain more ground over your partner, no it simply tells them that you can't easily let go of anything. Finally on this don't attack your partner directly, let your words be polite.

• Make giving a priority

Everything about relationship is give and take, as such you must learn how to give not only material things you can give, you can spend time together, encourage one another. In fact know what your partner like and learn to make it a surprise. One thing is to give another thing is to know how to accept gift. Many people lack this, try to always appreciate and be excited over any gift being given to you by your partner, even if you don't like it but first appreciate his or her effort then later you can politely communicate to him about the gift. Don't make your partner frustrated when getting you gift, some people are not receiving gift from their partners today, not because they are selfish but they really don't want to jeopardize things. 

Conclusively, no relationship is perfect no matter how healthy it is. In case of ups and downs and you are tempted to back out, reflect on the following: 

The moment you guys started how interesting it was then you will be able to detect where you both started drifting as to make amend. Also always welcome change because it is inevitable in relationship, you must be ready to learn, unlearn and relearn. Don't ever compare your spouse with another.