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How To Come Out Of Broken Relationship

 Just like others I also went through failed relationship. I must confess it isn't easy to come out from nor is it as simple as people will always advise it to be. You know that moment you felt you are loved, in fact engrossed in love, building a future you thought exists suddenly you found out you were chasing nothing when your thought partner suddenly tells you it's over. I tell you that moment can be hurtful, if one is not careful you can fall in to depression

The most painful part of it is when you have anything such as plans/ investment together, this can totally destroy your confidence and self-esteem. Because your thinking and confidence were  centered on that person. How to start all over will become a problem. Am glad to remind you that there is usually a light after tunnel.

Let me take you through my story a bit, I had a relationship that failed, we both have plans/ investment together which all was in his name, it sounds foolish right? That is what we do when we think we are in love. Thereafter, I felt stupid because it was as though I went back to zero. No cash, no love and no relationship. Your story maybe totally different from mine, but I tell you the feelings are usually same. Ability to come out of it without been broken makes the difference.

Do you know I came out of it without been broken? You too can.

Talking from a personal experience, Love is the most powerful force on earth. It can move mountains and makes the world around you sparkle with joy. The magic touch love adds to your life is both intoxicating and awed inspiring. 

However, when a magical relationship is slowly coming to an end or when your love is one-sided and unreturned, it can be excruciatingly painful. 

Not only does it feel as if the other person stabbed you in the heart but it also seems as if the emotional wounds simply do not heal.

Being hurt so deeply by someone who you’ve opened up your heart and soul is painful beyond measurement.

Not many things in life can be as emotionally painful as a breakup or love that is not or was not reciprocated.  

Suddenly, at breakup u become clouded with that feeling of "is life worth living" u may even think of ending it all without looking at the gains, blessings and the opportunities that lies ahead.

You must however realized that those Heartbreakers  left you because he or she was never meant to stay or be part of you, if they had remain it would have been a tale of sorry and regrettable end.

Mind you, the life ahead is more beautiful. The worst you could do to yourself is to cry or even kill yourself as I often hear people say, i will kill myself (a do man do body) and all manners of rubbish, over those they loved but never  reciprocated, who at initial never deserved you.

However, I will not forget to tell you that without forgiving yourself and your ex it will be difficult for you to glow back. Because there will be a lot of bitterness in you which can go a long way to affect your emotion and outlook. You must understand this that people are not ready to have relationship with someone whose heart is broken because of the risk involved such as not knowing if he/she genuinely love them, or they are just substitute/ healing balm of which when they are healed they can turn back on them. To some relationship doesn't mean anything to you since you have been heart broken and not ready to let go.

Dearest I encourage you to love yourself more it will go a long way to help you love others. It is not time to resent nor to hate anything relationship, it is time to glow and have a better plan.

To as many of you whose heart have been broken at one  time or the other or whose heart will soon be broken and u contemplated or will contemplate crying or suicide, hear this,  “Don’t cry when the sun is gone, because the tears won’t let you see the stars."


I AM A BETTER ME TODAY BECAUSE I WIPED MY TEARS AND I SAW MY STAR (MY HUSBAND), HE COMPLETES ME.

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