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The Reasons I Need To Submit To A Man Who doesn't Know His Responsibility

 


Submissiveness is surrendering your will and power to another, because of the position he or she is occupying in your life.

If a man is someone that provide to every need in the home, including love and affection, why woman is to raise and Carter for the children needs as the world believe.

But reverse is the case in most home/ marriages. Some men can't provide for their family needs, why some does but it must be equally done by both partners.

With this I begin to receive a lot of questions from people most especially women, that is there any need to submit to a man that can't even afford to pay the least bill in the home. How can I be the one providing and still be the one to give out my will and power to someone who is more or less a liability?

Some say he works I work, we both contribute equally to our family needs, therefore I don't see him as my head rather we are mate. So if he needs submission he should submit first.


My question usually is have you ever asked why bride price is lesser than the upbringing price?


Bride price can not be equivalent to upbringing price, if you think it is bigger then let's calculate using the most expensive girl of Sudan whose bride price was 500 cow, 4 Jeep and some cash. Let's say the total bride price requested by the parents will be lesser than trillions of their currency.

Now let's calculate/ estimate her upbringing price, please ensure you hold your calculator.

Starting from pregnancy feeding and antenatal bills which in fact can not be estimated. Because some children were delivered with millions.

Now let's come to after birth, baby food, health care, the working hours of babysitting and the inconveniences cannot also be estimated.

Then let's come to normal care: 

Let say she eats 3 square meal a day, each meal is #1000 ×3 = 3000.

Then 3000×365 days=?

Then the amount of 365days× 19years=?

That is for feeding alone, not the school fees, the healthcare and the shelter.

Now with all these upbringing price it is not compare to your future substainability price. Because. Most especially a female child when you get to age 20 your parents will begin to look forward to the day someone will tell them you have tried enough for this child I want to take up from here. It is not because is normal rather it reveals that the parents effort has now be appreciated by someone who felt he can do better, because of their good product. That is the joy of parents.

Now when your parents were taking care of you it wasn't all bed of roses, did you stop seeing them as your parents during those period of ups and down?

You must understand that the man who agreed to take you will face more than double of that. Remember if you stayed too long with your parents it will be 30yrs, but this man you can possibly spend 50yrs even more with him. Do you expect everything will be same at all these years? For the fact his handicap in providing today does not mean he will tomorrow. Remember your parents spent such amount for only your upbringing, but this man will spend more on you at the same time the fruit that comes out of you.

We understand that just as we have some lazy parents who care about their selfish self and not the future of their children, same way we have husband that are selfish and lazy. That is why you must understand who you marry. If his lazy then your helping part will be bigger that doesn't mean his not the head over you.

Conclusively, why you should submit to a man irrespective of his present status is because you must take responsibility for your actions/ choice. In that you will be able to contribute great change to his life. Remember you accepted him, out of all the millions of men that came you chose him which means you know what you were doing. As such you must be proud of your choice even if it was a wrong choice, remember the power to make your choice right or to allow your choice write you off lies in you.


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