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Why Stay In That Relationship?

 

Oftentimes I have come across young men and women talking about how they are feeling in their present relationship. Then I begin to wonder if all these are your experience in a particular relationship why then are you still there?

Then I begin to hear so many response like I love him, she is the most beautiful I have ever met, he or she meets my needs so if I leave him/ her now I don't think I will have another who can replace. Some tells me when I was growing up I promised myself to marry from prominent family etc.

Then if these your reasons are worth your staying then why complaining?


However I have come to discover that many people are staying in a relationship  they are not happy about which they don't have tangible reasons for doing so.

If you say you are in a relationship because you love the person why complaining? You must understand that love and feelings are fickle they tend to grow when one feels happy and satisfied. However there is no way you can be happy at all time on the surface of the earth. The Earth is full of uncertainty as such there must be ups and downs which tend to affect our emotion. If this is the truth about the world we live in then why think you can totally love someone? Remember we say our love for someone grows as a result of them making us happy at all time.

Truly I tell you there is no man that can make you happy when he or she is not happy. The world we are today can never make joy out of someone all day long. So everyone has time in which we are emotionally down as such anyone close to us at that time will be directly or indirectly affected by it. So you see you can't just simply embark or stay in a relationship because you felt you are in love when you are perpetually hurt.


What is Love?

Love is accepting someone for who he or she is, without compromise. It means you must be ready to take whatsoever comes from the person. Even if it doesn't suit you, benefit or satisfy you.

Following the above definition of love it's clearly seen that nobody on the surface of the earth can do that. Because there must be time for compromise.


Furthermore, if your reason for staying in a relationship you are not happy about is because of beauty, it might interest you to know that beauty is something that is not real and so temporary. We don't have the world most beautiful, the ones you here and see on magazine/ social media were done by sampling. What do I mean by sampling? The whole world did not gather at the event as to know who is beautiful, but few selected person were assessed and the best among them was chosen. As such that person is not the world most beautiful rather it is the most beautiful among those represented. Unfortunately that is who many people desire their partner to be, if eventually they see someone like that they tend to feel their problem in life for having partner is solved. But have you really met beauty? However I will tell you the truth that no one is beautiful than the other physically because we all have our physical flaws, if not visible hidden.

This, if your stay in a relationship that is toxic to you is as a result of beauty, then you don't have reasons for staying. Because you are following shadow something that is not true and permanent. Same goes for money and fame. 

Conclusively, there are so many reasons one should stay in any relationship so your reason shouldn't just be something that is not worth it. Also it shouldn't just be one particular reason, because that reason may not be enough to substaine you in that relationship. If there should be any single reason for staying in a relationship is the relationship that you are into and still make you be who you are in fact better than who you were yesterday and capable of making you a  better and useful person tomorrow.


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