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THE INEVITABLE THING IN RELATIONSHIP

Inevitable means something that must surely happen, that is what you can not escape. Example of life inevitable are: Death, Love, Relationship. One can't journey on the surface of the earth without coming across each of them. These make up the phase of life, as such i will be discussing them in Phases.

Phase 1 (RELATIONSHIP)


The first phase of the inevitable is the relationship phase, everyone must pass through relationship of one kind or the other starting from our home, most especially with siblings, parents and peers. Relationship can either be same sex or opposite sex.
 The inevitable in Relationship
The inevitable in relationship is 'breakage'
How do people handle broken relationship or what is your state of mind and heart when you come across this in life?

End of the road?

I assure you that broken relationship is not the end of the road. The road you did not access can't lead you to its destination. Why should i stop half way due to injury whereby others are joyfully, in pool of tears and pain yet still journey in it. No matter how relationship with opposite sex and peers have been painted black and red to which is true to some extent, but you will agree with me that we still have a lot of people happily walking through it.
If people are happy in it irrespective of what what has happened to them, then choose to be part of those happy and continue your journey of relationship. Remember life is all about choice so dont allowed yourself to be victim of broken relationship to the extent of it becoming a huge obstacle preventing you from walking through the road life with people who God have allowed to come your way.

Time to pay back?

This point has led many to failure in the journey of relationship with people. Most people has chosen not to be the only hurt person out there as such they have made up their mind to also make other persons feel the same way they felt. I have heard severally from boys saying girls are rubbish so when you have any of them deal with them they cant be trusted vice versa. Unfortunately payback has not yield any good solution rather is a tool the devil uses to take our true selves as such depriving us of the benefits. There was a time i made up my mind to extort men because girls extorted my father too and living us in pain. Without thinking of the consequences if i had embarked i wouldn't have love myself because the aftermath would have not been good.
Therefore, the fact that someone you trust and valued didn't treat you well should not make you to treat others wrongly because for every no you received thousands yes are standing to it.

Suicide?

In our society today suicide as a result of depression over broken relationship is the other of the day. It now seems justifiable but let me ask you does anyone deserve your death? Do you know how many people who are living just because of you? Do you know your life is to affect people? So before thinking of suicide how many people have you impacted with the life you did not purchase yet you think of taking it. Let me open your eye to what happened when one commit suicide, it shows the person has been rejected by the whole world he or she is worthless and useless even the fetus in the womb has rejected such person. Is that your situation? Look around you has the whole world rejected you? Is there no good thing you can render to someone in life? Are you so cheap and worthless that everyone read your negative story? Are there no people who have pass through same situation and came out with testimony? If your answers are positive then suicide is not the option. If you think is over for you i will ask for this favor before you go ahead to commit the act take a walk outside your environment try to put smile on 10 people face, rebuild their lives as your duty and see if actually you are worthless. Therefore suicide is not an option, when the thought come reply to it that you have inbuilt potentials that need to be manifest.
Finally broken relationship is inevitable everyone on the surface of the earth have passed through it. So stay strong don't give up. Remember is a refiner that comes unlock the hidden potential in you which can not be found elsewhere.

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